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  • Mexico (I want to go back)

    Mexico (I want to go back)

    Why there?

    Way back in March of this year, the pandemic seemed to be letting up. There were rumors of “Life going back to normal” and things seemed to be opening up.

    Taylor and I were feeling bored. After the rush of being pregnant with Mercy, the pandemic, having the baby, and getting through the holidays of 2020, things seemed slow around March.

    Brian Maness was with me at Tumblebees around that time, and shared with me about their upcoming trip to Charleston, and that got me thinking- we need a trip to look forward to. That very night, I went home and looked up some destinations: Washington DC, Charleston, Wilmington, where could we go?

    Taylor had the idea of going on a big trip, and asked my thoughts on having some friends join us, and since no one in the world had plans that far out due to the pandemic, we picked a date that worked from some friends.

    And because looking at destinations is overwhelming, our friend Julie Cook helped us decide on a destination, and recommended Secrets Maroma Beach.

    Some highlights

    • Houston. Had caramel apples as his carry on on the flight to the beach.
    • Sarah. Was able to plan childcare for the whole week the day before the trip when she learned that her own parents had covid. AND, Sarah’s visit to the “Rock Show”.
    • Chad. Was very good at making friends at the pool. And very good at supporting Rachel.
    • Rachel. Really enjoyed the sand. And rolling in said sand.
    • Taylor. We have used the phrase “Mexico Taylor” to capture ALL of the fun we experienced on the trip.

    Why so special

    Back in Kindergarten at Irving Park, Houston and I may have been in the same class. We were however, in the same small group with Jimmy Renslow from 6th grade until we graduated, meeting every Tuesday.

    Taylor was friends with us from 11th grade on, after we became christians, growing and striving together.

    That small group I mentioned? Rachel was the younger sister of my friend that hosted the group.

    Chad was a year behind us in college, but virtually lived with us his freshman year. He moved in his sophomore year.

    Houston met Sarah in grad school. And Chad and Rachel got serious right after college.

    That history is just a 25 year web of relationships and inside stories, all built on solid faith- through divorces, college, weddings, children, proms, graduations, girlfriends, jobs, houses, and a whole bunch of other junk in life.

    We all live in the same town, but for whatever reason, it is near impossible to get us all in the same place at the same time between work, and keeping all of our kids without something contagious that would jeopardize a backyard hangout, for example. So this trip was something special.

    what did you do?

    Honestly, not much. We ate and drank a lot. Side note: on our last trip to Mexico, in the pictures it looked like I had a bit of a belly, and Taylor was looking GREAT! And since pictures are so long lasting, I didnt want to have pictures where I thought my stomach was too big- so I slowly lost a few pounds over 6 months- 12 pounds total. And, I gained 8 back that week 🙂

    We just sat by the pool, sat by the beach, sat in the pool, ate by the beach, and basically mixed up variations of this over and over through the week. In the evenings, the resort had a few shows (see clip below). We went to dinner together around 6 each night if everyone was up for it, and had marriage time. Played beach volleyball. Taylor and I had a massage. Basically, we just enjoyed life without being parents for the week, and I forgot how nice it was to connect with people like that.

    Alright, here are some pics of the week:

    The “Rock Show” was a surprise.
    I took a salsa lesson by the pool
  • Halloween 2021

    Halloween 2021

    I have never seen so many kids trick or treating! Perhaps this seemed so shocking on the heels of covid, but building on the success of having the roads shut down to help facilitate trick or treating for our neighborhood, the road was packed!

    We had a lot of fun meeting up with some neighbors, and having Zippy, Aunt Mallory, and my mom join us as we had dinner with the Swarengen’s before trick or treating. Here are some pics:

  • OIB for the weekend

    OIB for the weekend

    At the last minute, we got the chance to come down to Ocean Isle Beach for the weekend, and it has been great. The weather was beautiful, and we got to sit out on the sand and play in the water- the week before Halloween even!

    Mercy and Rosie played so well together. They are such different kids- but NO ONE makes Mercy smile like her big sister does. They played on the sand and just laughed, and got along so well. It was a great weekend, and their relationship just brings me so much joy.

    Honestly, there isnt much new to post this week. We are just excited about going to Mexico in 12 days, and trying to lock ourselves down so no one tests positive for Coronavirus, and derails our trip.

    Here are some fun pics of the weekend:

    Mercy on a swing
    Rosie on a swing
  • To grandmothers house I go…

    To grandmothers house I go…

    The past few weeks have been busy with good things.

    • Mercy is closer to walking
    • Taylor did a retreat last night
    • went to Waco, TX to see Grandma Sue
    • Looking forward to Mexico in less than 2 weeks

    Mercy is (almost) walking

    Its wild how two siblings can be so incredibly different. Rosie, at 1 year old, was all smiles and excited about people. Some could argue that she still is that way. Mercy is a bit more reserved. If you are not mom, dad, or her sister- she might have an eye of suspicion about you until she warms up.
    She is almost 13 months, and just this week started walking with her toy walker. (Rosie was walking at about 11 months?). Here is a quick video from yesterday, she is so proud of herself!

    Visit to Grandma Sue’s house

    Grandma Sue has always been healthy. She grew up in the countryside, has always been active, and never had many health issues (at least, no health issues I have been made aware of).
    Almost three years ago she moved to Texas after her third husband died. She was living in Myrtle Beach at the time, and decided that she didn’t have any reason to stay there, so she looked at her options: Move to Greensboro to be closer to our family, move to MO to be closer with Sherry, or move to Waco to be closer to Margie. She opted for the third choice since Margie is a hospice nurse, and now that Grandma Sue is 88, that kinda of thing is important.
    Earlier this year, Grandma Sue had a big fall. It wasn’t noticed until Sherry called her one morning, and did not get a response from her usual daily check-ins. So, Sherry reached out to Margie, and told her something wasn’t right, she needed to go check on Grandma. Margie rushed over, and saw the most horrible site: Grandma slipped in the bathroom, hit her head, and there was blood everywhere. In the fall, she also suffered from a broken femur.
    The past several months have been in rehab, learning to walk and manage around the house again.
    After getting mostly better from that incident, she had a stroke that affected the right side of her body, and this is where I stepped up to make the trip to visit her. Not sure of what to expect, I found her fully capable and in great spirits.
    My job at Levvel is remote, so I found a direct flight from Greensboro, and visited from lunchtime on Monday until lunchtime on Thursday.
    During the trip, my mom had the idea to get a video of Grandma Sue sharing some of her life story. So I did: I prepared by buying a cheap tripod for my phone, and found a set of questions from a website that is all about this kind of thing. I am not a great film maker, and the video starts and stops at the wrong places, but here is the final result:

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    What else?

    Also, I passed my AWS certificate. This is a useful certificate stating that I know how to build web applications using Amazon’s web services (or, the Amazon cloud).

    Taylor stayed the night st St. Francis retreat last night and is taking the day off of work today to do a personal retreat (along with a few ladies from her Bible study at work).

    In less than 3 weeks, Taylor and I will be going to Mexico! We are beyond excited, as this will be our longest trip since our honeymoon. This is our delayed, 10 year anniversary trip- because our real 10 year anniversary trip was less than ideal: it was in the midst of a Covid lockdown, Taylor was VERY pregnant with Mercy, and we went to Blowing Rock for only 2 days.

    We will be going to Mexico with two other couples- my best friends and their wives, who Taylor sees regularly.

  • Mercy turns 1, going to see Grandma

    Mercy turns 1, going to see Grandma

    Mercy turns 1.

    Its hard to believe its been a year. And as Mercy gets older, it is so evident to see how much different she is than Rosie. One example was their 1 year checkup at their pediatrician (they both go to the same pediatrician).
    When Rosie went to her 1 year checkup, she was an ideal patient- all smiles, happy to see the doctor, and waited patiently on my lap in the waiting room. When the doctor came in, Rosie was all smiles- until he brought the needle out for her shots, to which she DID have this in common with Mercy- she only cried for a brief minute.
    When Mercy goes to see the doctor for her 1 year checkup, she was not content to sit on Mom’s lap- she wanted to tear up the paper coating the exam table. Then, when the doctor approached with the stethoscope- she batted it away. Again, not sure how to read the tea leaves here about what this will mean as they get older, but they sure are different, and man I love them both.

    Mercy Highlights.

    One of my favorite things about Mercy is this: her response to worship music in church. Ever since she was REAL small, and we were allowed to get back into church as a congregation and worship together, Mercy has REALLY responded to the music. I love to hold her during these times- and she wiggles her legs, tries to sing along- and she just gets happy in a way she rarely does.

    She loves her older sister. I know this blog is filled with that statement, but it is a source of great joy to see how she follows her sister with her eyes wherever she goes. My favorite thing is when they are in the backseat together, and I can look in the rearview mirror and see Mercy’s eyes as she is staring at her older sister- and giggling.

    Birthday

    One thing I love about Taylor is how she is content with who she is. She had a simple party for Mercy- without any undue stress of trying to have things a certain way to be insta-perfect. No, we just had a simple party with family to honor our girl. No need to get crazy with decorations. And it was sweet. Mercy- in true form- didnt smile hardly once through the whole night.
    The party was filled with her favorite things- her sister, balloons, pizza- and thats about it.
    Here are some pics of the night:

    Time lapse of getting the leaves.

    Because I am a nerd, here is a time-lapse video of getting a few of the leaves up before the party. We have several large oaks, so getting the leaves during this season is a weekly process if you want to stay ahead of it. r

    Thats it for now. Currently I am at the airport in Greensboro flying out to see Grandma Sue for a few days as she recovers from her stroke last month.

  • Two birthday milestones

    This was a big week- Deborah and Mercy both had big birthdays. Deborah turned 60, and Mercy turned 1.

    Happy Birthday Deborah!

    For months, literally months, we have been prepping our house for this party.
    Some might ask, “what can you do for months to prepare for a party?” Well its funny you should ask. We moved in to this house about 2 years ago, and there has been this list of small projects that we needed to do, but right after we moved in, Covid started, so we didnt have any people over. In the midst of Covid, Mercy was born, so we were very busy with that. However, hosting a party for some 40 or 50 people was an impetus to get some things done, inlcuding:

    • pressure wash the driveway
    • touch-up painting
    • decorate the house (thank you Lori, the interior decorator)
    • get a new couch
    • run electrical wires in the studio
    • install a motion detector light.
    • add “italian lights” above the porch
    • replace a rotting board on the deck
    • rake and blow and mow the lawn
    • repair our outdoor furniture.
    • new furniture (used, actually) in the studio

    Why list these things? Don’t tell Taylor, but it was actually fun. Watching a few videos on Youtube can make anyone confident enough to try out new house projects, and Taylor and I worked together and got a lot done, and it was awesome to open the doors to welcome so many people we loved.

    Taylor did a great job pulling off the surprise. It went like this: We told Deborah that we were doing a combined birthday, for her and for Mercy, and that family would be there- so Deborah knew that some people would be there.
    Taylor followed up by sending a same-day email to everyone, saying that our neighbor was having a retirement party, to there would be a lot of cars on the street. Well played Ted (I think that was his idea).
    When they pulled in the driveway, Deb cried a bit- she is such a good friend to so many people, it was nice to see her honored.
    It was also strange preparing for a party without her, because Deborah is usually so hands-on with decorations and food and table arrangements, that Taylor was a bit at a loss. Gia Lineberry stepped up to the plate and helped with Table arrangements though.

    Deborah was honored, and everyone had a blast. The whole night was amazing.

    What about Mercy’s birthday?

    Mercy turned 1 this week! Her actual party will be next week, but we did get to take her out for pizza on Friday night to my- I mean her- favorite pizza place, cugino forno. By far, the best pizza in town, and if you haven’t been, you should check it out.

    For her birthday, Taylor and Rosie woke her up (usually I do), and she had a few balloons around the house to play with.
    Because she likes riding in her little red car, we all walked Rosie to school together and Mercy really seemed to enjoy herself.
    Rosie made her a “rainbow loom” bracelet that says “sisters” on it, but she will really be celebrated next weekend.
    For now, here are some pictures from this week:

  • Bring on fall, y’all

    When do things slow down? They say… when we are dead.
    Since the last post:

    • Rosie and I went camping
    • Rosie and Mercy continue to be inseperable
    • Grandma Sue had a stroke 🙁
    • We went on a trip to the lake with Matt, Evan, Lila, Amelia, and mom.

    Rosie and I went camping

    This summer, for father’s day, my mom gave me a gift card to REI- so I used to to get a 4 person tent. Rosie and I were thrilled to take it for a test run in the back yard (it was a hot, sweaty night) because I wanted to see if she could make it through the night before committing to anything longer- and of course, she passed with flying colors.
    So, we got reservations at the Price Park campground, right off the parkway, and a favorite place of mine while I was in college. My goal- for YEARS- was to take Rosie to the Hebron Rock Colony, which is this place with MASSIVE rocks that line the river. Not too much fun for swimming, but GREAT for climbing around on, since rosie has shown so much interest in climbin recently.
    We drove through BOONE for lunch (and stopped by my old dorm, and old house at 229b west king st), set up camp, and did the hike. It was close to 4.5 miles, and kicked my butt. Rosie was pretty tired the last mile, but we did it!

    Rosie and Mercy are inseperable

    These two girls are amazing- my heart is full. Mercy SQUEALS with delight when she sees her big sis. ANd it happens daily, this is such a sweet time I dont want it to pass.
    Mercy still refuses to walk- she is scooting around everywhere.
    Here are a few pics of them, as we inch closer to Mercy’s big 1-year birthday!

    The lake!

    For the past couple years, we have gone to the lake with Matt, Evan, Mom, and the girls (Lila, Amelia, Rosie, and Mercy). Last year Taylor was SUPER pregnant and had limited time on the boat (and maximum time at the house with Mom). So this year, she wanted to make up for it.
    Mercy wasnt really a happy camper most of the weekend.
    But the whole weekend was a blast. The food was amazing- everyone had great attitudes, the girls always have a blast together. It was just a fun time to hang out and mark the end of the summer. We are all pretty weird in the family, but we do ok together 🙂

  • Still closing summer, and an interior decorator.

    This week is Taylor’s birthday. And one of the big gifts she got was an interior decorator(thanks Deb!).

    Why is this so important?

    We have been working through some to-dos in our house. Things that we want to do because when we moved into the house:

    1. We were house poor.
    2. We were about to have a baby.
    3. There was a pandemic, and no one was coming over.

    Fast forward 2 years, and now we are ready to have people over. Also, we have been locked down and looking at our house and creating a wish list. My list included re finishing the deck, a tv for the garage/studio outside, pressure washing everything, laying a gas line for the grill, etc. One of the big things for Taylor’s list was to buy a couch. As a male, there were many things I didn’t understand, but have since come to my attention: one does not simply “buy a couch”. One must consider the past, present, and essence of the couch. The color schemes (what?) the purpose of the room (huh?) what it will match wish (wtf?). And it can “feel so overwhelming” (just go buy a couch!). So, Deborah (my MIL) gifted Taylor some time with an interior decorator, and some of our “couch” budget was expanded to include….a lot more than a couch. Whatever it is, Taylor is SO happy, and the couch that we DID settle with, it is a dream. It is SO comfortable, and very easy to fall asleep on.

    Closing summer.

    For the end of summer, Rosie and I will be going camping for our first overnight camping trip in Boone- stay tuned!

  • Closing summer, happy anniversary

    Closing summer, happy anniversary

    Taylor and I celebrated our 11 year anniversary this weekend by going to 1618 Seafood. Deborah took BOTH girls for the night, marking Taylor’s FIRST night away from Mercy.

    Several times during the night, the silence was perfect. There was no one begging for our attention, no one trying to be convinced to do something, or whining, or tv noise- just sitting with Taylor at a table with a drink was so….. nice.

    I can’t believe its been 11 years. And I love her so much. We keep getting better, and with her hair done straight and wearing earrings, she looked like a total hottie (we didn’t get any pictures from our date night- this is a sign that things have changed since our early years, when she would never let a night go without a couple pics to mark the occasion). Covid, working from home, and nursing a baby have all combined for very few days of getting to dress up, so seeing her all fancy made me feel pretty special. I am a lucky guy.

    Since there were no pics of our date night, I wanted to share pics from our engagement night at the same restaurant 11 years ago- on 12/23/09 (I almost ordered the same thing- tuna with wasabi mashed potatoes). There are a few other pictures here that I wanted to include- it is awesome that most of these people are still in my life today.

    And summer is coming to a close, sad.
    This has been a great summer, filled with:

    • Family trip to Charlotte to visit the whitewater center
    • Many camps for Rosie, including spy camp, Vacation Bible School, Tennis, Muirs Chapel, first year of Swim Team, dance camp (starts today)
    • Emily Hawkins babysitting 2-3x per week.
    • A lot of time with Rosies friend.our neighbor Sydney.
    • A lot of time at Hamilton Lakes pool
    • Rosies first car camping trip
    • Watching mercy “scoot” (she doesn’t crawl).
    • Family beach week, a great success!
    • And excitement for our upcoming trip to MEXICO in November!

    Ok, gotta go, Mercy is waking up (at 6:43, at 10 months old, another great success!)

  • Grammy’s funeral

    This is a short post, not lengthy by any means, because Rosie, who is 6, might wake up at any moment.

    However, I just got back from Grammy’s funeral, and it was nice.

    Dad-5
    Gordy-3
    Liz-3
    Steve-3.
    That is a total of 14 grandkids, and 12 great-grandkids (and counting, I am looking at you Richardson fam!).
    The awesome part, is that ALL grandkids show up. The preacher told us how rare that really is.

    Seeing all of the family was amazing. Uncle Steve keeps getting cooler and cooler the older he gets. As a kid I was a bit intimidated by him. Now I love his punny sense of humor. And his marriage w Aunt Chris is something anyone should strive for.

    Taiyo and Hiro are getting tall.
    All the cousins are getting older and seem to be doing great career-wise, and this was such a cool site to see.

    Jake is an amazing human being. His heart for others is something I strive for. I always say to myself that relationships are the most important thing- and they are. But Jake lives it out better than I ever could.

    The part that tore my heart out was this: seeing the tombstone of Beatrice Wilcox Roome, Grammy’s twin. She died of pneumonia at two years old. Aunt Liz relayed that during Grammy’s last couple years, she would frequently ask, “When I see Beatrice, will she be an adult? Will I be a kid? Will she remember me?”

    Grammy probably thought of her almost every day of her life. And that left me with something: Grammy’s life was tougher than I ever realized. She had hurdles in her life, but didn’t draw attention to them. She was tough, and looked upwards for strength. I think she found that strength.

    She prayed in tongues. And, according to cousin Suzie, a dove landed on her chair one time when she was praying.

    Ok, Mercy is waking up now. Attached are some pictures. Next up Ill add some more picture of my trip to Manhattan.